What is the Problem?
Jehovah’s Witnesses are known internationally for prolific litigation in the USA and international courts. In the 1940’s Jehovah’s Witnesses fought and won over 43 cases that were brought before the Supreme Court establishing the rights of their religious practices.
The most recent case was a 2003 favorable Supreme Court ruling against a small town in Stratton Ohio. You can read it here
When members have attempted to sue over shunning they typically were bullied into silence using their volunteer legal team with unlimited donated funds to fight their court battles.
Watchtower maintains a staff of fourteen or more lawyers that have one purpose and that is to win at all costs. In custody battles involving Jehovah’s Witness children the non-JW parents often discover the following happening to them.
Restraining orders filed under false information to obtain temporary sole custody.
Jehovah’s Witnesses coming to court in large numbers to offer negative testimony to sour the reputation of the non-JW parent.
Fabricated testimony to win at all costs with no fear of the legal system.
Tens of thousands of non-JW parents have discovered too late they do not know what they are up against when Watchtower Attorneys get involved in custody cases. Typical law firms are unfamiliar with the complicated structure of the Jehovah’s Witness religion as well as the strategies and ploys used by Watchtower Lawyers to drive up court costs and make a mockery of the court process.
Jehovah’s Witnesses refuse life saving medical treatment when a child’s life is threatened. Statistics show that over 130 Jehovah’s Witness children die each year for not receiving blood transfusions.
Jehovah’s Witness doctrine requires a member or their children to die rather receive a blood transfusion. It can be dangerous being a child of Jehovah's Witnesses. As a parent, you are required to deny your child a life-saving blood transfusion. You are even instructed to keep them out of hospitals which may give one. Many children have died because of their parents' beliefs. In the past, Jehovah's Witnesses were forbidden organ transplant: even vaccinations! For detailed information about JW polices on blood [click here].
Jehovah’s Witness children are under severe restrictions which isolate them from non-Jehovah's Witness children. Jehovah's Witnesses parents deprive their children of many physically and emotionally health opportunities in life. As a Jehovah's Witnesses parent, you will forbid your child from:
Celebrating birthdays and all holidays;
After-school competitive sports with non-Jehovah's Witnesses kids;
Joining certain hobbys or clubs;
Playing little league baseball;
Joining the YMCA; self defense courses;
Voting in school elections, saluting the flag;
Attending school dances and even dating, except for marriage.
When a religion advises a member parent to prejudice a child, using slander and “end times” judgment to pronounce all non-JW family members as evil, it is crippling mentally and emotionally for a child in this circumstance.
The saddest moments for JWCC are when tearful parents call and say they wish they had known about our services. Their children are lost into cult indoctrination and now view them as agentsof Satan.
Below is an experience of how Jehovah's Witnesses treat former family members:
This is a recent story posted by a former Jehovah's Witness and their interaction with their active Jehovah's Witness family member. It helps to show the mind set of all active JW's regarding how family should be treated. This could this happen to you!
I went to my dad's house for Christmas. It was the first Christmas we celebrated together since I was 5 years old. It was my kid's and [name withheld] very first Christmas ever.
One of my sisters lives near my dad and is a hardcore damaged JW and has nothing to do with my dad.
I figured if I didn't call they would accuse me of not even calling when I was in town. So I called [my JW sister] and left a message, and she finally called me back after a couple of hours. I was driving, but I pulled over on the side of the road to talk to her.
After some very brief (like 30 seconds) idle chit-chat, she finally says, "I don't know what to make of your phone call."
Me: "What do you mean?"
Her: "Well, are you up here for Christmas?"
Me: "We're up here to visit Dad."
Her: "For Christmas?"
Me: "Well, we will be here DURING Christmas, yes."
(Note: I knew what she was getting at and she wasn't rattling me. I was trying to let her work out her logic to me.)
She says, "Well, I saw the pictures of the girl's Easter Egg hunt so I know you are doing pagan holidays. You are an apostate and have turned your back on the true God you were raised with. I love you, but you have let Satan into your heart."
Me (after snickering - which I didn't mean to do): "[Sis], I know we have differences but I was hoping that natural affection for your family would take over and we could put our differences aside and we could get along for the sake of the kids."
Her: "If you would like to meet me somewhere with the kids I can take them and they can all play together, but I can't be around you because you are dangerous."
Me: "No, it's a package deal. It's either me and the kids, or it's none of us."
Her: "I figured you would say that and that is too bad, because I know the kids would really like to play together. The boys heard the phone message and know their cousins are in town. But since you have turned your back on Jehovah, I cannot have anything to do with you. You are dangerous."
Me: "I'm dangerous? The whole reason I left [our town] quietly is so that family members would not accuse me of trying to destroy their faith. Now, despite that, you are STILL calling me dangerous?"
Her: "Yes, you were raised with the Truth. You were raised to love the true God Jehovah and you dedicated your life to him. But you have basically turned your back on him and because of that, cannot have you in my house. You have completely hurt our entire family by your actions because we love you so much."
Me: "[Sis], what am I supposed to do if I found 100% irrefutable proof that the religion I was raised in is not what it claims to be? Am I supposed to just stick it out because I dedicated myself to it?"
(Note: This is the logic they use to get people from other religions to leave a religion and join the JWs. But apparently that logic ceases to exist if applied to themselves.)
Her (after a pause and some slight stammering): "Well ... yes ... I guess you do. You made a dedication to Jehovah and you have turned your back on him and are now doing pagan things. I love you but I can't associate with you."
Me: "Well, that's unfortunate, but you treated [my wife and kids and me] all like crap when we were supposedly going to meetings and doing everything we were supposed to. So for me it's not as big a loss I guess, but I was hoping the kids could at least hang out together for awhile."
Her: (After a pause) "I know. I know I have problems with cutting people off
emotionally. But I do love you - I know I do cut people off emotionally and it is something I am working on. Me even calling you back is showing how much I love you and I was praying that you would have a change of heart. I know I do cut people off emotionally though."
Me: "I know you do too. But being a witness requires that you cut people off
emotionally. It's called having no natural affection."
Her: "I do have natural affection. But I cannot be around someone who has turned their back on Jehovah. I need to protect my faith."
Me: "Look, I just wanted to come see your new house and "
Her: "I want you to come see our house too, but the scriptures say that someone that leaves the truth should not even be having a meal with such a person."
Me: "That is not what the scripture says, it says do not eat with any fornicators. I have not fornicated with anyone!"
Her: "That's what it says. Not even a meal."
Me: "Yeah, for fornicators. But I haven't fornicated with anyone."
Her: "You are celebrating pagan holidays so that is fornicating with false religion."
(Note: This is a typical method of almost seamlessly adding to scripture to make it say something it really didn't.)
Her: "With the poor choices you have made over the past year, it has really caused me to re-examine my faith and to really look at what I believe. I have looked at tons of secular books as well as the bible and it has done nothing but reaffirm my faith."
(Note: She didn't even hint at what she looked up - which I have found to be typical. No one ever is willing to tell me.)
Me: "You didn't look hard enough."
Her: "I did look hard enough and I am completely satisfied. I looked at secular books and I looked at the bible and where they differed I go with the bible because the bible is inspired of god."
Me: "So do I. I go with the bible on those differences too."
Her: "Whoa, no, don't even start with me [name withheld]. I'm not gonna have these kinds of apostate conversations with you."
Me: "Like I said, I was just hoping that natural affection for your family would take over and we could just enjoy each other's company as brother and sister and the cousins could all hang out together."
Her: "Jesus said that the truth would divide families."
(Note: I don't recall Jesus saying it would be a bragging point that a religion would be proud of.)
Me: "Every religion uses that line on their members to keep them in! If you go to an ex-Mormon website you will find the exact same lines from Mormons to keep their members in line."
Her: "I don't visit those kinds of sites. Visiting sites like that is dangerous to your faith but apparently you are willing to visit them."
Me: "I said ex-MORMON websites. Not ex-JW websites."
Her: "I know. I said I don't visit those sites."
Me: "An ex-Mormon site? You wouldn't visit an ex-Mormon site?"
Her: "No, because it is dangerous to my faith. I am not going to visit any site that could be a detriment to my faith."
Me: (Pretty much speechless at what I had just heard) "[Sis] , I wish I was
recording this so you could hear how ridiculous you sound."
Her: "Well, I'm sorry you feel that way. But you are an apostate [name withheld]. I love you, but you are an apostate and Satan has got a hold of you."
Me: "Well, I'll be sure and tell my kids you said that about their dad."
Her: "I'm sure you will. But remember that the girls are always welcome here because they never dedicated their lives to Jehovah like you did. That is why I can't see you."
(Note: My dad is not "dedicated" to Jehovah, but she'll have nothing to do with him either.)
Me: "And when we head up to Grandma and Grandpa's I'll make sure to tell them that you said I am diabolical and Satanic."
(Our grandparents are not JWs and do not like JWs at all, but have kept their mouths shut for decades just so they can see their grandkids.)
Her: "Yeah, I bet you'll just love going up there and telling them all this."
Me: "I'm not the one making the accusations. I am just speaking the truth."
Her: (After a bit of a pause, her voice shaking) "I ... love ... Grandma and Grandpa SO MUCH and I always have."
Me: "So do I!"
Her: (Her voice turns contemptuous) "YOU DO NOT! You and [my other JW sister] BOTH say that you love them but you don't love them like I love them! You and [my other JW sister] pretty much have NOTHING to do with them and I do stuff with them all the time. You are just using them now to divide the family."
(Note: But remember, she said the truth divides families. I am only speaking the truth. Also, never mind the fact that she lives an hour away and me and my other sister lived 3700 miles away in the complete opposite corner of the U.S. - It has always been hard to visit being that far away.)
Her: ".. and you are lazy! You are just lazy! You couldn't cut it and you didn't want to do all that Jehovah required of you. Requirements that you DEDICATED YOUR LIFE TO! You need to HUMBLE YOURSELF and come back to Jehovah before it's too late!"
(Note: It's lazy to walk away from all you have ever known and start over completely from scratch? That is easy? That is taking the lazy way out?)
Me: "I need to humble myself? I'm not the one that is saying I have absolute truth and all the answers. It is neither faithful, nor discreet, or humble to say that you have ALL THE ANSWERS. That is not humility. That is arrogance. Not even the supposedly evil Christendom has the arrogance to proclaim that. They do not say, 'You have to be a member of our church or you will die!'"
Her: "Of course not, that's because in the churches people just like to have their ears tickled. They don't want to have to do anything."
Me: "[Sis], you are just speaking in buzzwords and lines lifted directly from the Watchtower. None of this sounds like it is coming from your heart."
Her: "Well I believe it with all my heart, so if it sounds like they are just lines that is because those things are in my heart."
[there was more, but I don't remember it all at the moment]
Her: "This conversation has probably already gone on longer than it should have. I love you and I love your girls, and they are always welcome here, but you are not."
Me: "Like I said, I was hoping natural affection for your family would take over. But apparently it won't."
[Some sort of awkward goodbyes and final digs at each other and we hung up.]
Watch actual court testimony of an Elder lying in court
Preparing for a Child Custody Case Involving Religious Issues
Explain that you are aware of many serious and possibly fatal dangers from blood and that you have made arrangements with your doctor to provide alternative non-blood management of your children’s medical and surgical needs. Acknowledge that your former mate properly has a right to have a say in any medical decisions involving the children. See Awake!, December 8, 1997, page 10; Awake!, October 22, 1988, page 12. Stress the fact that you want the best available medical treatment for yourself and your children and that avoidance of blood, in your opinion and the opinion of many in the medical community, is a sound, healthful course. – Preparing for a Child Custody Case Involving Religious Issues, 2008, p. 34
Preparing for Child Custody Cases
Many try to portray the beliefs and practices of Jehovah’s Witnesses as dogmatic and restrictive . When answering questions about your religious beliefs and practices, emphasize the fact that you have formed your beliefs and adopted your practices after much study and reflection; your religion is not simply a matter of rules which have been imposed by the elders. You want to emphasize the fact that you are a thinking, well-balanced, and reasonable individual who is competent to act as a parent. Avoid any response which gives the impression that you are unwilling or unable to provide for your child’s best interests because of your religious beliefs. – Preparing for Child Custody Cases, 1988, pp. 2 & 3.
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